There is so much in a person’s life.
Why we desire what we desire, and why do we always feel the need to justify with ourselves what we desire?
I had the chance in life to get to know something about NLP and how to achieve our goals, how to set our goals, and how to determine when you reach a goal.
One thing NLP doesn’t explain, though, is why we desire what we desire, why we have certain attitudes rather than others, why, since childhood we are more keen on one behavior rather than another one.
There are probably tons of studies on the subject, but, one explanation that my intuition (and my intuition only) feels right is the one Abraham Hicks gives.
Desire comes from contrast, and contrast comes from the universe for our personal growth and spiritual expansion.
The fulfillment of that desire happens only when you are aligned with your inner self, and that you feel that spiritual expansion, all the other ways will not be satisfying.
This is really why most desires are so difficult to realize, and also why we always desire something that is so difficult to achieve.
Abraham talks a lot about desires, but when people ask questions they are mostly concerned about the outcome, and not so much on how to enjoy the trip.
All the desires in the world seem pretty common.
When we ask to express a desire, and it’s the outcome that we believe will make us happy, when actually, the fulfillment of a desire can be dangerous if you don’t align body and soul to it.
When thinking about “I want to become a superstar” I Imagine Britney Spears that had the talent, the capacity, the momentum to achieve that goal, supporters, money and fame, but did not have real family support and laws to protect her, that made it obvious that she was not happy. (And yes, she also attracted some herself with her songs, but that’s something else).
I don’t know if any of you have ever watched “Forrest Gump”, that is my favorite movie in the world.
There is a part of the movie where Jenny, Forrest’s all-time best friend says: “I want to be a folk singer and live on that!”.
The Universe is quite literal sometimes, it takes you seriously, and even though it is only a movie, it’s quite the way it happens in real life.
After a long time they didn’t see each other, Forrest finally has a chance to visit her, and he is so happy for Jenny who finally had her wish come true. She was singing a folk song on a stage and making money with it, not noticing that she was naked, and really unhappy.
The Universe will always provide, and it will always make sure your wish comes true, but how to get fulfillment from those desires comes only from us, and on how much we align to the process, not to the outcome.
A singer that doesn’t like to perform every day, can’t be happy and fulfilled by one time they had success with it.
An athlete that does win an Olympic medal, can’t be proud of what he has achieved if they took drugs, or if it was simply super easy for him.
I’m thinking, for example at Ian Thorpe, famous unfortunately for training while being in a suicidal state, while being hungover and for achieving all swimming goals anyway with ease.
Most of the people that are happy in life, have one basic skill in common.
They transform their desire in achievable goals, they consciously or unconsciously align with it, with the process. They overcome contrast, obstacles, pain and limiting beliefs to align with the process, not the goal.
And they enjoy.
It’s a little ironic that I write this right today, because I myself have a hard time following this path.
In my life I only had one true desire: being accepted for who I am, by being free.
Funny enough, life has given me an unsupportive, judgmental family, disappearing friends, unasked responsibilities, unwritten rules, and unstable codependent issues with partners.
Ironic, isn’t it?
But it’s always soothing for me to remind myself what would Abraham Hicks do if he was standing in my physical shoes.
I know what he would tell me. He would tell me to breathe. He would tell me to enjoy my breathing. Furthermore, he would tell me to enjoy what I do, to focus on what makes me feel good in each moment. And only when I feel so much joy that my body can’t contain it anymore, to change that desire in a goal and be specific about my desires.
Because in the end, things are always working out for me and for all of us, we just have to better live with chaos, and accept what we can’t control.
I just simply enjoy listening to this, especially when I forget the potential of wellbeing we all have. ❤